I have a great regular life, but it’s not fulfilling from within. Why?

Chances are, if you have decided to read this, the same might apply to you in some capacity. Let me, however, tell you in the very beginning itself — I myself don’t have an answer to the question in the title above. I am just putting my thoughts here on why I feel the way I do, and maybe it might or might not give you a new perspective.

The Good Part

Let me go ahead, and bring out the parts of life, which I feel are good. These might look very normal to most readers; Some might see these as the bare basics of everyday life, something that seems too insignificant to pay attention to; But for most, these might seem like a luxury.

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1. Having at least one fixed source of income, with earnings that can give you a comfortable life, after distributing portions of it investments, groceries, bills, savings, etc.
2. Having a good education, and mentors in your life.
3. Having good friends or relatives, whom you can rely on and go to in different situations that life puts you through.
4. Having a comfortable home to live in, your parents who love you, aunts and uncles and cousins — a supportive family.
5. Having time to spend with your loved ones, to spend it in your hobbies, to spend it on yourself, to spend it on maintaining your health.

The Problematic Part

This is where the mind feels troubled. Majority of the population will think, oh, you have it all — why aren’t you just happy or content? A smaller section of the population might look down on you. But these are the things that make you question, what is missing in life?

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1. You can buy most of the things you used to desire as a child or a teenager — but you just don’t want them anymore because you know they won’t make you happy, or they just don’t make sense in the grown up world.
2. Your hobby has become a repetitive habit, a cyclic activity like your daily job, and you aren’t enjoying it how you used to once.
3. You can have all the fancy food at the best eateries, but simply doing that doesn’t bring joy (of course it does, but it is short lived, often followed by a guilt that will lead you to think of your physical health… LOL, right?)
4. You have a bunch of things to entertain you — the internet, Netflix, Spotify, Kindle, and what not. But how long can you do these? At some point, you will hit the entertainer’s fatigue (I think I am inventing a term here, a Wow moment!)
5. You feel like doing something crazy, something you think you could never do but must go ahead and try it, and after hours of thinking you sulk back and decide maybe it won’t give you the satisfaction after all, that you are seeking.

Is There a Solution?

Well, I have jotted out a few points from the good, and the bad. I do have some points around what can help you out, because personally they did help me, and might still be helping me!

Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.

- Melody Beattie

1. Practice gratitude with a conscious mind. All that you have, is not common to everyone. Many wish for it, so feel good about having it all and be thankful.
2. Love and respect those who love you and care about you — people don’t live forever.
3. Go out and meet people — personal connect works like magic, and phone calls/texts/video calls can never reach that level.
4. Follow some outdoor activities, challenge yourself or your friends, get active — kick up those dormant hormones that triggers happiness and excitement.
5. Ditch your screens for entertainment, and read a book instead.
6. Take a trip with your family, you will definitely enjoy watching them do so, even if the trip bores you out (and chances of that happening are, less than 10%).

It is very common for me to jump into the train of thoughts, where I start by thinking that something is missing in my life. It’s lacking the excitement, the adventure that I need. How can it be so monotonous, unvaried and deprived of thrill?

These thoughts take away the energy from my soul, which I could have otherwise used to drag up my a** from my very comfortably cushioned gaming chair, and put it into action to fulfil some of the supposedly “amazing” ideas of mine!

A constant fearful thought boils within me, “For how long can I keep with the consciously generated feel good factor? For how long can I bring myself out with an effort?”. Once you reach these question, you will end up in the same pit as I sometimes feel I am in.

However, in the fortunate case, where you have successfully crossed that stage, and managed to come out with your sanity intact, as a happy person, please do let me know how!

At the end, we are all humans, and we must strive to reach our best version in this life — constant evolution for the greater good, isn’t it?

Happy reading! Drop a clap if you liked it or were able to relate to any of it.